Two weeks ago I shared a post that focused on high school coaches, which pointed out some less-than-stellar examples of coaching: Dear Coaches, High Schoolers Are Not Paid Athletes. I got to thinking about that post and the thought occurred to me that I should really write a related post focused on positive coaching.
As I mentioned in that post, our kids have been fortunate to have several good coaches over the years, so I want to give those coaches, along with every other positive coach out there, a big thank you. This is Little League Baseball-oriented, but it could easily apply to coaches of any sport. So here goes:
Dear, Coaches:
Thank you for all your hard work and dedication. Thank you for spending hours of your own free time working with kids and never giving up on them; even those kids who look like they’re NEVER going to get it. Thank you for showing up for every practice, game, and team party ready to teach and help.
Thank you for sending emails and texts to constantly keep us updated because life is busy with so many other things. Thank you for responding to our questions even though you already sent the same information in your update.
Thank you for being willing to stand in the rain and get soaked for two hours so your players can get better. Thank you for working as hard as you possibly can to get the field dry so you can somehow still play the game.
Thank you for being patient when parents don’t get their kids to practice on time. Thank you for not losing it when you’re expecting them to be there an hour before game time and there’s still no sign of them with just 30 minutes to spare.
Thank you for driving them SAFELY all over town because their parents are busy driving their siblings all over town. Thank you for waiting patiently after practice because their parents are running late to pick them up.
Thank you for buying them dinner when you’re traveling home late from a far away location. Thank you for handing down equipment, uniforms, and other sporting apparel and gear without asking anything in return.
Thank you for picking up the tab for batting cage sessions, and for optional uniforms so one kid doesn’t feel left out. Thank you for buying their first pair of metal spikes because their parents couldn’t afford to.
Thank you for showing up an hour before practice, or staying an hour after, to work with our kids one-on-one and give them that little extra time and help they really need.
Thank you for being there for them when they strike out, make an error, commit a turnover or make a major mistake. Thank you for encouraging them even when they have given up on themselves.
Thank you for focusing on the positive even when their parents might be too focused on the negative. Thank you for turning failures into teaching moments and for using successes as building blocks.
Thank you for making them smile when they don’t feel like smiling. Thank you for being their friend. Thank you for pushing them just hard enough without knocking them down. And thank you for building them back up when they do get down.
Thank you for staying after the game to clean up the field and for making sure all the equipment is put away. Thank you for teaching them that there are more important things than winning. Thank you for setting a good example and remembering that they are watching you.
Thank you for letting those less-talented kids have a chance to shine, too. Thank you for not yelling or punishing when kids make mistakes. Thank you for recognizing when kids are giving everything they’ve got and doing the absolute best they can.
Thank you for recognizing and pointing out when kids do something right, when they make improvements, or when the light bulb finally goes off about something you’ve been preaching for weeks. And thank you for celebrating with them when they achieve success.
Thank you for being a positive influence in their life.
Thank you for sticking with that kid that no matter how hard you worked with him just couldn’t hit the ball, because he finally did in the last game of the year, and it was amazing.
Thank you for teaching kids to be good sports, to be good people and to treat others with respect.
It’s not your job to raise these kids, but thank you for reinforcing the good lessons that their parents are trying to teach them.
Most of all, thank you for loving our kids, because that is what being a patient, kind, and positive coach is really all about.
So to all good coaches everywhere, I say thank you. Thank you for giving everything you have to make kids sports better, and even more importantly for helping make these kids better.
Great work, coach!
Sincerely,
Parents Everywhere
12 Comments
Chantel
It’s soccer season here, and my kids have the good fortune to have truly awesome coaches. Thank you for articulating this: I agree, coaches deserve our gratitude and appreciation! We haven’t participated in any other team sports yet, but my son gained some confidence this season and it’s due to good guidance and the chance to play.
Kent Livingston
Thanks for sharing, Chantel. Just another great example of how much of a difference coaches can make, not only during a season but also in a child’s overall desire to keep participating in the future or not.
Katie
Great post! I have always been so thankful for great coaches that my kids have had over the years. There is so much time and dedication that coaches put in to help kids learn and you did a great job capturing that. Thanks for sharing!
Kent Livingston
Thanks, Katie. It is truly amazing how much time and effort some coaches give just to provide a good experience for “random” groups of kids. The good ones really need to hear that they are appreciated so please share with anyone you think would appreciate hearing this.
Anitra
Such a great post! My daughter plays club soccer, and we are very thankful for all of the hard work and dedication of her coaches! They probably don’t get to hear it enough, so this is a great way to show our appreciation!
Kent Livingston
Thanks, Anitra. Great point! They don’t hear it enough. It seems like sometimes no matter how many good things coaches do, many parents just focus on the small mistakes they make and complain about them. Hopefully, this post will continue to be shared to let them know they are appreciated.
Ariel
This is a great post. Coaches everywhere need to be appreciated more. They do so much for the players and it often goes without a thank you. This post reminds me of playing sports growing up and having coaches that were so supportive and would do so much for the team and probably more than I ever realized.
Kent Livingston
Thank you, Ariel. Totally true. It wasn’t till I wrote my original post about my daughter’s current experience that I realized how much I should appreciate the good experiences. That’s what inspired this post. Hopefully, it can be shared with all coaches everywhere who need to be recognized for their positive work.
Zach
This was a really great post for me to read tonight. It was almost like I was drawn to it for a reason. I sat in the stands tonight and watched my Son stand on the sidelines of his Junior High football game for all but 3 plays. He was the MVP of his team last year. Your post made me realize how great, and fair, his Coaches were last year. This was a very meaningful post. Thanks for writing it.
Kent Livingston
Thanks, Zach. I hear you. We are going through a difficult coaching experience with our daughter in HS right now and it sucks. Makes us appreciate the good coaches that much more. Please feel free to share this with anyone who you think would appreciate it.
Cynthia Mackintosh
I love your post and agree 100%. My youngest child is in Karate and has a great teacher! It’s not little league, but it’s still considered a sport. We should give more appreciation to coaches and teachers everywhere.
Kent Livingston
Thank you, Cynthia. You’re right. It doesn’t matter the sport, good coaches are so important. Please share this post with any coaches you know or parents that need to be reminded to be grateful for their kids’ good coaches.